Sunday, March 10, 2013

Own your Actions and Choices

Hi everyone!  Welcome to the True-Love Blog once again.  I am happy that I am back writing in this Blog and on this topic of Love.  It seems like we forget about Love until it burns us or lets us down in some way and then we find ourselves pondering the age-old question:  "What is Love?" The truth is, LOVE actually isn't what let us down at all.  Nor was it another person who let us down.  We let ourselves down.  Anything that happens to us exteriorly speaking, is actually happening to us on the THOUGHT or Mental level.  It is fueled by what is happening to us on the emotional level.  Then it manifests as situations in the physical world...things like lack, accidents, health problems and more.  Some of my readers will believe this and some will not but assuming you are still reading I will continue.  Love is not the emotional state or the condition of being so much as love is a LAW in the Universe and our Creator (The Light), exists within the Law of Love.  There is no imperfection in this LOVE.  Love just is.  We experience the depth of what this great thing called Love really is when we have happy shared moments of joy and pleasure and ecstasy and fun.  Unfortunately, human beings easily associate the LOVE with the PERSON who is sharing it.  Love is either IN us or Lacking in us.  Love is either a shared experience or is lacking.  When there is an absence of the presence of Love in any person's behavior or choices, that person and all those connected with them and their choices, suffers.  This is why we are commanded by great men and women from the past to LOVE EVERYBODY.  Love your neighbor as yourself.  How hard do people find that?  It is damn near impossible to do it perfectly.  So let's explore ways to improve on being Lovers, Loving People and Love-Manifestors.

Most people know and believe and accept the idea of paying it forward, right?  We give freely...an act of kindness...to random strangers or people in need that we know.  We strive to fill and meet the needs of people in our inner circles.  We accept and love people where they are at.  Most of us probably try to live this way but how many of you agree it is not so easy to do???  I believe there needs to be more community effort at Assisting people to continue acting in LOVE toward their fellow man and their friends and their families.  It starts with one small act of kindness and then it grows and the circle widens.  One of the best ways to start making this a "Way of Life" for yourself is to choose a Cause to start supporting or giving to.  Give of yourself regularly.  Give time and money.  The more you give away to the needs of others, the greater the reward will return to you with feeling the presence of real Love.

I found myself thinking the other night about sickness...like long-term illnesses such as Cancer that is resistant to treatment.  I thought about how many people (children too) who live with cancer (and balding and treatments) and all their time and resources are absorbed in the battle to rid their body of this poison.  Then I widened my gaze to see their friends, family and supporters.  There is no such thing as "normal life experiences" for these people.  Everyday is like living a completely different kind of life then the majority of people around them.  Some people get to go about their daily lives self-absorbed over their daily schedules and their little struggles.  These people (I am among this group, by the way), feel loneliness and a lack of connection to the Light over and over during the course of their lives.  But those dealing with the heavy burdens of something like what I described above, for them, NOTHING except beating the illness, really matters.  They have this nearly singular focus.  If they want to really heal and survive, they must fight and those who love them must do so also.  They sacrifice, they pray, they listen to advice, they make decisions, they boldly follow-through.  They HAVE TO DO IT.  It is "Failure is not an option".  In a way, I envy them.

Without having to go through such an ordeal, such as a life-altering illness or other life-altering condition, we CAN replicate the experience in order to connect with the Light of the Creator and the GREAT power of LOVE.  We do this by living a life that is Full of LOVE.  This means we dedicate each thing we do, think and feel...or say...to being TRUE, compassionate, open, real and honest.  This also means that we allow our loved ones to really influence us toward being better.  Expecting things is a slippery slope.  Having expectations that other people, places, jobs, conditions, relationships or gifts, will bring us fullfillment or happiness, joy or Love...is false.  It doesn't work that way.  We do the right things and live the Right Way...and we are then living in the Light and living in Love.  A very cool person I know, my coworker Kevin, taught me this:  LOVE IS A VERB.  It is not complacent.  It takes action to produce Love, maintain Love, Share Love and also to cause it to grow and also to draw it to us.  Life is very brief for each of us.  We waste much of it waiting for others to cause happiness for us.  I am guilty of this.  I am struggling with this.  I am too often in the depths of despair wishing to be saved emotionally, while the whole time I have the full ability to bring about the Love and Happiness I desire with no external help at all.

Furthering our practice in connecting to Love and the Light of our Creator and the Soul of what it means to be a Human Being, comes in Restriction.  Restriction is the idea that although many things are available to us to attain, use or express...we are choosy and particular about which ones we allow in.  Let me say this another way.  We CAN have whatever it is we desire, but we should be CAREFUL what we choose because there are consequesnces to everything.  This is a LAW of the universe, like Gravity is a Universal Law.  If we think we can defy the law of gravity, we work against the law and we can get injured or die.  So in the same way, if we ignore the fact that the Universal Laws are there and in effect because the Creator made them, we are still affected by them.  We must learn to work WITH those energies and not AGAINST them.  In a recent Lecture I was listening to by Michael Moskowitz, I was reminded that the power of the forces of chaos that exist around us, are STRONG.  We cannot expect to go "toe to toe" with this chaos and be able to defend what is good.  We must learn how to use the power of Love, Restriction, Faith and Deliberate Action to CREATE the life we want and need for ourselves and others. 

If you are serious about making these changes in your life, I understand and support you.  I endorse many great programs that exist to help you on your journey.  Me and my boyfriend are believers in Kabbalah and that background of faith gives us the tools we need to work with the situations we face.  Some people prefer Christian Tools, and others may like to learn from a more "Student-Teacher" learning environment.  I have friends who recommend Landmark Forums.  I found this link with a simple Google Search if that helps:

http://www.landmarkeducation.com/

I recommend if anyone is interested in forming a basis of knowledge in Kabbalah, that they learn from the people at the International Kabbalah Center using the following website link:

http://www.ukabbalah.com/home
Thanks for reading today.  I hope you found it enriching.  I am continuing to ask for people to inbox me with any advice or stories about LOVE and MARRIAGE.  I would love some 1-3 paragraph detailed essays about what works and doesn't work.  I plan to publish a book on this topic one day so any and all ideas are appreciated and will be documented properly.  My email address is:

angelmarievangyzen@live.com

LOVE everybody and Be Blessed,

AngelMarie (Lilac)

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